Saturday, August 19, 2006


The RV show yesterday was awesome! It was in a town a little south of here and we'd not been there in years. The convention center that housed the show was HUGE and most of the displays were inside in the airconditioning! So we really got a chance to walk around and explore them without dehydration and death! Yay!

We even know almost to the letter what we want now. Now for finding it, and having the money for it. ; )

We stayed there until around 3pm and then with the drive back home, there was only time for a quick clean of the house before it was supper time. I threw together some chicken fajitas and then we settled in for (Tivo'd) hours of Who Wants to be a Millionaire.

The way we "play" it is that the little girls get to answer all of the questions until they can't answer them anymore (usually $2000.00 or so) and then the rest of us duke it out. DH, our oldest, her BF, and me. Pretty fun.

I got a phone call from my great aunt (who is much closer than one might think a great aunt would be) who said that my great uncle wasn't doing so well. I've got to think of some way to help them out and I'm just drawing a blank. They're terribly stubborn people who think they're being a burden if you offer to even grocery shop for them. But they're in their late 70's and on medication and NEED some help. I can't seem to make them understand that it's an absolute privilege to do anything in the world for them that we possibly can do.

If anyone has any ideas of ways to help elderly relatives in a situation like this, without making them feel badly, I would sure appreciate it.


Elizabeth said...

It is hard for an independent, strong willed person to admit that they need help. Or to admit that they are getting old. It seems like an admission of weakness. But, as you said, it doesn't mean that they don't need the help. Or that they don't really want some help. They just don't want to ADMIT it. So my suggestion would be just do it any way. Don't ask if they need you to go to the store, just go and buy what you know they need. Don't ask if they need their meds picked up, just pick them up. Go over to their house one day and just start doing what needs to be done ( dishes, cleaning etc. don't do anything major without permission:)). When they say they don't need help, tell them you know, but you love them and want to serve them. My grandmother, who is 95, always says doesn't need help, she can do it herself. I tell her I know that but she has spent her life serving others ( she had 9 children) and she deserves to be served now. Maybe that helps, maybe I just ramble on! I noticed my blogs are usually quite long! :) Btw, thank you for the message you left, sometimes it is nice to hear words of encouragement. Especially when you feel as if you efforts go largely unoticed.

Michelle said...

You know, you're absolutely right. The girls and I ended up making a really big meal, complete with homemade bread and a pie, and taking it down to them for a visit.

And that's nothing. But it's a start.

And I totally understand what you mean about feeling that your efforts go largely unoticed.

But having a 19 yo, I can almost promise you that when you're dealing with a child, NO effort goes unoticed. The good or the bad. ; )

Thank you for coming here and commenting. It makes all the difference.