Wednesday, February 07, 2007

And Another Break

Things are coming along here. But you know how mussed up everything is when you're in the middle of moving things around and doing major cleaning? Well, that's where I'm at right now. It will get better though. And I can see some parts of it starting to shape up.

Thank goodness.

I just wanted to quickly touch on a point that's been on my mind all day. Yesterday I caught a piece of Dr. Phil. It was about these 3 couples who were on the verge of divorce. As you can imagine, there was lots of drama. These men were not very nice to say the least. The wives definitely had their issues as well. And when I saw the (bleeped out) cursing and yelling that went on within earshot of the children, I just cringed.

Anyway, there was this particular couple on there that I'm talking about in this post. The woman, a stripper by trade, was having an affair. The guy, by his own admission, didn't treat her well before he found out about the affair, and now he sees what he's about to lose and his attitude (he says) has changed.

So Dr. Phil was asking her how this affair made her feel. She said that she had no idea why she even did it. Dr. Phil isn't screaming or cursing of course, but he has this dead serious look on his face and he tells her that he's going to help them to build their marriage from the ground up, and then he looks her square in the eye and says that he wants this man to go. She agrees with him. And he said that he's not just wanting her to tell him that this man is gone. He wants the man to go. He is going to bring him in and she is to tell the man that he is gone. Period.

This young woman looks at him with tears in her eyes and says, "Yes Sir".

Now, time will tell how this plays out obviously, but it was amazing to me how easily he got her to at least, and with great respect, vocalize agreement with what he was saying. She absolutely listened to whom she perceived to be in authority.

She alone is responsible for her actions. But she seemed so willing to obey authority that I wonder if she's ever had any authority in her life. And it made me really sad for her.

She just seemed lost to me.

Like so many women in marriage today. Stumbling around with no idea how to behave or treat their spouse. No idea what marriage means. Almost like no idea of right and wrong.

And that is truly scary to me.

(And before it's pointed out, I *know* the men were even more the focus of this show. I'm simply talking about one subtle thing that I thought was screamingly telling.)


Laurel Wreath said...

That is sad....

In response to the comment you left about me leaving the car running...girlfriend laugh all you want...I am laughing (well kind of) today. I need to find the humor in all of this =))

Thanks for stopping by.

Have a great day.

Beth said...

Hi Michelle!
I didn't see an e-mail so I will post a comment. Found your blog via Musings of a Mountain Mama. I just read through your archives. I like to do that to see if I am interested in the blog!! I sure am! I don not have a blog but you can e-mail me at
I am a Christian, married 16 yrs with a 16 yr. old daughter and a 12 yr. old son. I am 38 yrs. Hope to hear from you! Oh, I have a Command Man too!! Beth

Michelle said...

Hi Beth, it is really nice to meet you! That's exactly why I started the blog in the first place, to meet like-minded, Christian women. And it's extra nice to meet someone who has a Mr. Command Man! So you've read Debi Pearl?

I love Stephanie's blog as well. She has some amazing wisdom and insight for someone so young.

I never realized that my email isn't here. To tell the truth, I'm pretty new to this blogging (though I'm *sure* it doesn't show). :D

Please feel free to email me anytime. MyGirlsMom3 @ comcast. net (without all the spaces of course).

It would also be lovely if you started a blog as well! Have you ever thought about it?

Chrissy said...

This post reminded me of Anna Nicole Smith. She really didn't have a clue, did she? She always struck me as lost and floundering (and she may well be lost forever, now...)

Michelle said...

She certainly appeared to be clueless, though I read somewhere that soon after her son died she was talking about God on a talk show? I wish I could remember where I read was a blog I think?

My heart has really hurt for her for some time. As much as I disagreed with much of her behavior, she seemed to love her son.

I simply can't imagine losing a child.